A personal reflection for World Mental Health Day, 10th October.
Let’s not sugarcoat it—life can be really tough sometimes. As someone with a variety of mental health experiences in my immediate and extended family, I can tell you it’s often challenging and overwhelming. I’ve seen firsthand how mental health struggles impact those we care about, and while the conversation around mental health has become more open, especially after the pandemic, it can still be uncomfortable for many. Some people don’t understand it, some prefer to avoid it, and for some, the stigma still looms large.
For those who struggle, it can be frustrating to hear about strategies and tools that supposedly help. Sometimes, it feels easier to just sit with your feelings, indulge in a bit of self-pity, and get lost in a Netflix binge. And you know what? That’s okay. But please remember, you’re not alone. Life is a rollercoaster with ups and downs for everyone—though it’s true that some struggle more deeply than others.
If I could share one thing with those who don’t personally struggle or find it hard to understand mental health challenges, it’s this: try to imagine the weight that others carry. Picture waking up every morning with a heavy weight on your shoulders, pulling you down with the want to get moving, yet you can not. Imagine the Herculean effort it takes just to get out of bed, to face the day, or to take care of your family when all you want to do is stay under the covers. Think of the constant pressure and expectation that weighs on them—not just from others, but from themselves. Add to that the fear of judgment and the guilt of not feeling ‘normal.’ The persistent thoughts of “Why me?” and “Why can’t I just get on with it?” swirl in their minds, amplifying the frustration and sense of burden. For some it might be the tightness in the chest, the unease of facing the unknown—these are the daily realities for those with anxiety, depression, and other mental health challenges.
Mental health is layered and complex, and everyone’s experience is different. So, what can you do? Open your mind and listen. Truly listen to hear—not just to respond. By doing so, you might find a way to show more compassion and forge more meaningful connections. Your understanding and willingness to simply be there can make a world of difference.
Even if you don’t know exactly how to help, let them know that you’re there and that it’s okay not to have all the answers. Feeling heard and validated is powerful, and sometimes, that’s all someone needs to start finding their way through the darkness. Remember, it’s just as difficult for them as it is for you.
So, on this National Mental Health Day, let’s commit to making a difference—not by having all the solutions, but by showing up with empathy, open our hearts, and open our minds. Together, we can break down the stigma and support each other through life’s ups and downs. You have the power to make someone feel seen, heard, and valued. And that can mean everything. 🌟
You’re not alone, and neither are they. Let’s keep the conversation going. 💚
Follow along for more inspo, Deb x
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